My Boyfriend Has a Girlfriend
I am thinking of renaming this blog “The Adventures of Dating in your mid-30s” (okay… late 30s, but who’s counting?). I thought that if a guy asks you out on several dates, that you could assume that they were actually available. I’ll know better next time!
For the last few weeks I’ve been going out with this guy. We’ve been having a good time and getting along just great. I noticed after some time that he didn’t seem available on the weekends. This wasn’t easy to figure out because I have been on the road and not around much on the weekends either. But this last weekend when I asked him out, he said he was going out for a bike ride and couldn’t see me. My response, “You are going for a bike ride ALL weekend?”
I started to put together that there was something a little strange about that, and perhaps there was more to the story than I knew. So, I asked him if he had a girlfriend. Even with a direct question, I couldn’t get a direct answer, but when you put two + two together, you come to the same conclusion.
Dating these days is harder than it used to be. Now we have the phone (which no one actually uses), emails (3 different accounts at the very least), Facebook (when he didn’t accept my friend request that should have clued me in), and texting (which is totally confusing and impersonal). With all these options, it is amazing that anyone even gets to the point of actually going out on a date.
So, now I know. Before going out with someone I first need to ask if they are married or in a committed relationship. Whew, glad to get that lesson outta the way relatively unscathed. Anything else I need to know?